It’s no secret that we all have personal histories and we take our histories wherever we go.
For many of us, that history includes undesirable feelings about ourselves or others. The encounters producing those feelings, although past, can feel disturbing for a variety of reasons. Regardless, the person can suffer brokenness like a piece of pottery that’s dropped to the hard floor, now broken in pieces.
The brokenness might be aspects of a divorce that had become nasty before it was finalized, a DUI record that feels shaming, or an obligation fulfilled, yet distressing for a dependent, sickly parent who had minimal resources. Perhaps the brokenness stems from a poor work evaluation for the second time, an enormous responsibility for a team’s failed work project or being fired for the first time from a job.
For the Job Searcher and Crafter, the emotional wear and tear of brokenness can show up unexpectedly and cause disruption at unwelcome times. A different perspective is needed that will help mend the brokenness so that disruption is less and confidence is available for Job Searching/Crafting efforts.
In today’s article …
Today, we will provide that different perspective… a perspective of recognition, acceptance and hope. See those broken pottery pieces scattered on the floor? What if those broken pieces were mended? The following story about a Japanese tradition called Kintsugi provides an answer that’s surprisingly pleasant…
The story of Kintsugi may have begun in the 15th century when a shogun warrior sent a damaged Chinese bowl back to China to be fixed. He then challenged his Japanese craftsmen to find a new form of repair that could make the broken piece look as good as new, or better. They mended the bowl with gold. To his delight, the bowl looked better for having been broken.
And like the damaged bowl now mended, are we able to take our brokenness, mend it and actually be improved due to the brokenness? I say absolutely!
Carol’s story is a beautiful example…
So here’s Carol, who was working hard to craft her dream work and at the same time coping with the difficult impact of her care-taking role and the brokenness she was experiencing. A little history…
A responsible daughter and employee, Carol had become the caretaker and advocate for her aging, very ill mother. This was not a desired or planned event. Carol’s relationship with her mother was complicated with a very difficult history. However, feeling obligated, Carol resigned her current employment and took the caretaker responsibilities.
Now, four years later, Carol was ready to commit to finding work she loves. She still needed to somehow come to peace with the lingering complexities surrounding her relationship with her now deceased mother so she could show up as the strong, confident job candidate.
The gold Carol applied to her past and lingering brokenness which ultimately helped her to focus on the job search and job crafting was her question: “How can she (Carol) use any of the skills and experience from her caregiving role or time off to help with her return to work?”
Exploring the question, Carol transformed the pain to learnings about herself. She recognized her skills of persistence and advocacy that could help her return to work efforts. She took what could be described as broken pieces of herself by that experience and started mending them with a gold that produced a beautiful wholeness.
Here’s the takeaway …
The takeaway is to apply the perspective that no matter the brokenness in our lives, it’s just a part of us. Those parts can teach and bring a kind of understanding that’s useful for job searching and crafting…damage made beautiful by tender, appreciative and loving consideration. Maybe that’s wisdom. Surely, pure gold.
So, I’d like to ask you, How does gold show up in your job seeking/crafting?
Are you looking for ways to enhance your job searching/ job crafting efforts? Let’s get together and discuss strategies to add more gold and boost satisfying results. Ask for a Love My Work Strategy Session today. I’d love to meet you.